Ok so i'm not being sexist but us girls go through some shit dunt we? we definitely have the worst end of the deal...don't argue boys. (one word periods) haha.
So as many of you know I have depression and i've recently gone through a break up, which in all honesty broke my heart! something that's never happened to me before and i didn't know how to deal with it. So with the help of my best friend i've put together some tips and tricks to be a badass independent woman; a look in enjoying rocking right now.
I've realised it's so important to do things for yourself and be the person YOU want to do.
But trust me it took time to get to this stage and a lot of real talk from my loved ones.
1. It's ok to cry.
If you want to bridget jones it & watch sad films, eat ice cream then DO IT! Get it out of your system - pretending to be ok is only going to catch up with you at some point. So get your best pjs on, grab your girls & get some comfort food.
2. Support is key
As much as we like to think we can get through anything on our own, why should we? everything i have ever overcome in my life is a combination of being strong and having the most amazing support system around me. Talk about it to your family, your friends and get it all off your chest - you will feel like a huge weight has been lifted!
3. Social media detox
I literally can't stress enough how amazing this is for the mind and soul.
i have done it so many times in the last year, lasting a good few months! i went back on it once i moved back to wales to re-establish some old home connections but it's done nothing for me apart from giving me anxiety! it makes me feel like i need to prove how happy i am how much fun i'm having, etc! don't get me wrong i'm totally happy and my life is pretty good right now but why should i have to prove it on my personal accounts!
It really is amazing for the soul and i would totally recommend a detox for a few weeks at least! you'll feel so much happier!!
4. Keep busy
This one is so helpful! Keep busy with work, see your friends, spend time with family - do the things you never had time to do and watch how you replace the negative with the positive.
5. Do YOU!
You know who the most important person in your life is? it's you! This is the time to focus on yourself. strive for that goal; whether it's that new job, promotion or fitness goals - do it! get out of your comfort zone. There is always time to do what you want to do, go travelling, see the world or even just have a full day in bed because YOU CAN! You never have to do anything you don't want to do remember that. Do things because you want to.
6. Be your biggest fan
We all criticise ourself so harshly! Which not only brings down our self esteem and has a huge impact on our daily life. So try replacing negative words against yourselves into positive. Made a mistake? so what we all do - move on and learn from it.
Rules are made to broken! if you want to eat what you want, sit like a bloke, swear like a sailor...then who the hell cares! DO YOU.
7. Take time to yourself
The saying 'get over someone by getting under someone else'... is so farfetched. All this does is prolong your heartbreak. learn how to be single! You not need to rely on anyone, spend that time focusing on yourself and not rely on someone else for your own happiness. Youu’ll be surprised how much you learn about yourself in that time as an awesomely independent single badass!